Have you ever tried to figure out why; in one second you are happy and the next you become Sullen?
The last words that come out from your mouth before retiring to bed at night is "Why did I have a bad day?"
Simply put: Why would you be unhappy?
What could be responsible?
Can you voluntarily decide to be happy?
Whose responsibility is it for you to be happy?
Let us try to figure these together.
What makes you happy?
This is the first and most important question that must be answered in the quest for happiness. Often times, you would observe that your feelings are mostly influenced by external factors. These factors include love, hate, what others say or do to you, etc.
Practically speaking, you would effectively rid yourself of any kind of unhappiness if you understand the fact that what you feel most times does not come from within. The senses of the human body that is responsible for feeling is very deceptive and funny. It is structured in such a way that it senses only those things that come from outside. How do you sense the feeling of touch? External touch. How do you sense the feeling of guilt? Doing something wrong. How do you sense the feeling of love? Being loved. All these come from The External Factors.
So for example, the next time you are about to feel unhappy try to reason in this direction. Ask yourself, what would change if I continue to feel the way I do? The very simple response to that most times is NOTHING. So instead of brooding over the situation start to think, and solve the problem before it becomes a problem. Understand the fact that if you can master the act of feeling good without any external factor involved then you have effectively mastered the map of happiness. Nothing would make you unhappy. Nothing! Not when you have mastered how to choose what makes you happy.
What if...?
We often times neglect one very important fact that we know. I strongly believe that one defect or should I say feature of all human beings is the fact that it knows a lot but finds it hard to put them all into action when required to do so. Why do I say so: very simple, whether you choose to be happy or not life continues, Right? Let me try to put it a bit lightly; put the whole problems of the world on your earth, when you die, the world will definitely miss you and mourn you for a very long time, perhaps for a whole long week, and the life will continue. Note: life will continue!
True, there are expectations to be met, but the attitude to life should be very easy and simple. Don't attempt to be the Super Human or should I say Superman. Even he did not choose to be so. And he also got hit, remember. He fell, a lot. He was also bruised, remember. Work hard, play hard, think hard, pray hard, read hard, write hard, but never bother hard.
There is a very big difference between thinking and worrying. Choose the previous and life will become what a lot of people say it is not, to you; A BED OF ROSES.
Be happy! It will make you become a better person. And remember nobody, and nobody and nothing on the face of earth is capable of deciding how you feel. Else, why would you say you are responsible if you are not responsible for the way you feel?
Simply put: Why would you be unhappy?
What could be responsible?
Can you voluntarily decide to be happy?
Whose responsibility is it for you to be happy?
Let us try to figure these together.
What makes you happy?
This is the first and most important question that must be answered in the quest for happiness. Often times, you would observe that your feelings are mostly influenced by external factors. These factors include love, hate, what others say or do to you, etc.
Practically speaking, you would effectively rid yourself of any kind of unhappiness if you understand the fact that what you feel most times does not come from within. The senses of the human body that is responsible for feeling is very deceptive and funny. It is structured in such a way that it senses only those things that come from outside. How do you sense the feeling of touch? External touch. How do you sense the feeling of guilt? Doing something wrong. How do you sense the feeling of love? Being loved. All these come from The External Factors.
So for example, the next time you are about to feel unhappy try to reason in this direction. Ask yourself, what would change if I continue to feel the way I do? The very simple response to that most times is NOTHING. So instead of brooding over the situation start to think, and solve the problem before it becomes a problem. Understand the fact that if you can master the act of feeling good without any external factor involved then you have effectively mastered the map of happiness. Nothing would make you unhappy. Nothing! Not when you have mastered how to choose what makes you happy.
What if...?
We often times neglect one very important fact that we know. I strongly believe that one defect or should I say feature of all human beings is the fact that it knows a lot but finds it hard to put them all into action when required to do so. Why do I say so: very simple, whether you choose to be happy or not life continues, Right? Let me try to put it a bit lightly; put the whole problems of the world on your earth, when you die, the world will definitely miss you and mourn you for a very long time, perhaps for a whole long week, and the life will continue. Note: life will continue!
True, there are expectations to be met, but the attitude to life should be very easy and simple. Don't attempt to be the Super Human or should I say Superman. Even he did not choose to be so. And he also got hit, remember. He fell, a lot. He was also bruised, remember. Work hard, play hard, think hard, pray hard, read hard, write hard, but never bother hard.
There is a very big difference between thinking and worrying. Choose the previous and life will become what a lot of people say it is not, to you; A BED OF ROSES.
Be happy! It will make you become a better person. And remember nobody, and nobody and nothing on the face of earth is capable of deciding how you feel. Else, why would you say you are responsible if you are not responsible for the way you feel?
